Category Archives: Violence

Conflict – Now That’s One Bad Relationship!

duelling_pistolsThe Vice President of the United States was so angered by the refusal of the Secretary of the Treasury to apologize for remarks made that he challenged him to a duel and shot him to death.

Conflict arises in politics, the workplace, marriage, family, and churches. We all have some kind of problem in the realm of our relationships. Maybe you went into a relationship thinking that you were 100% in agreement about everything. I’m sure that bubble was quickly burst. It’s rare to have absolute agreement between two people much less between hundreds or even thousands.

When you work through differences, you build a stronger relationship. Many times, when a marriage hits a rough patch, there is a freshening of the relationship. It’s like hitting the reset button on a game console – suddenly things are working again.

Disagreements can also be distractions, especially within the church. How do you keep a church from reaching others? You create division among the members. How many churches has Satan rendered ineffective because he was able to generate dissension? Christians are easy prey when the trap is baited with prideful prejudice over unimportant matters. Division hurts Jesus and the cause of Christ.

Life Lesson: When we come together, we create problems. When we work together to solve them, we become stronger people and stronger in the Lord.

It was sad that two of our nation’s founding fathers, Aaron Burr and Alexander Hamilton, could not settle their differences without bloodshed and death. Yet only the strength, mercy and grace of God keeps any of us alive.

David McGee is the founder of Cross The Bridge Ministries as well as a pastor, teacher and author.  He may be contacted using the form here.

A Gentle Answer


Screenshot 2014-03-05 01.14.14aAn elementary school in Georgia, an AK-47, 50
0 Rounds of ammo, and shots fired.  Antoinette tells the shooter, “We’re not gonna hate you, baby… It’s going to be alright sweetie… “

 Relationships are difficult. They require work, constant attention and above all, they should be filled with love. Of course, this is easier said than done in many cases. What happens when you dealing with a difficult person? Often, we begin identifying what is wrong with the other person, but what if we looked first at ourselves? What if we first asked, “How should I respond?”

 Proverbs 15:1 says “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” In our human abilities, we don’t feel like returning anger with a gentle answer, but it will put the fire out. A harsh word makes it escalate. It’s amazing how much the Bible mentions about the effect of our words. Watching your words can make your job better, relationships better and give you less regrets later. Do you want to change the people in your life? Start by changing yourself and the perfect place to begin is with your words. Respond in love, and God can do amazing things in all your relationships.

 Life Lesson: You can be changed today. Every relationship you have including your job can be improved today.

 20 year-old Michael surrendered to police without anyone being injured, thanks to the gentle answer and words of love shared by Antoinette– one courageous lady.

David McGee is the founder of Cross The Bridge Ministries as well as a pastor, teacher and author.  He may be contacted using the form below.

 




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Column #14-0301 (Life Lesson based on 2 Corinthians 12:19 teaching)