The bride-to-be was depressed just days before her wedding because of her appearance. She looked different from the other girls.
What can cause someone to change their view of themselves? Could it be as simple as kind words of affection? Let’s look at the case of Solomon and his bride to be. First, we find a woman depressed about her appearance. She is concerned about because she worked in the vineyards, under the hot sun, and was unable to care for herself. But pretty soon, she calls herself a “rose of Sharon” – a beautiful and highly valued flowering plant. What a change of perspective! All because Solomon spoke loving words of affection and encouragement to her. This shouldn’t surprise us since the Bible tells us that words are powerful.
In the book of James, it says, “In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.”
The power of our words is unbelievable. Many times we forget that and hurt with our words rather than heal. God desires that we all walk with grace, humility and love for one another. We should look for opportunities to lift one another up with our words. Speak words of gratitude, of thanksgiving and of grace to one another. Husbands, speak affectionately to your wife. Wives, speak encouragement to your husbands. In this circle of loving words and affection, you will find a healthy, growing relationship. Our words are powerful so let’s use them wisely.
Life Lesson: Words are powerful tools that can be used to build people up or tear people down.
Thousands of years later, the story of this depressed fiancé still inspires us to spread kind words.
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David McGee is the founder of Cross The Bridge Ministries as well as a pastor, teacher and author. He may be contacted using the form here.
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